Why Letting Go is Sometimes Your Biggest Leap Forward

The moment I thought it was all falling apart... was actually the moment everything was falling into place.

Feel Like You’re Failing?

Perhaps you've been holding on to a vision, a path forward, or a career change, and yet that path feels impossible right now. If that's you, then this article will help you know that what feels impossible right now is absolutely possible. (This is my story.)

The Email That Proved the Universe Listened

Hello, friend. It's Nicole Hernandez here, top clinical hypnotist and success coach, and I had to share this with you today, so I've made a very special episode on the fly.

It's really interesting because this morning, I opened an email from one of the journal apps that I've been using for a very, very long time, and I get these little reflections from the past, which are fun sometimes, to see how much I've actually grown over the years. And this one was from July 5, 2015, and I'll actually include a screenshot of this journal entry so that you can review it and see it. This is not made up. I had this pivotal moment this morning, and if I'm honest, I'm still a little emotional about it because it felt so big.

Now, at the time that I wrote this journal entry, I was dreaming about starting my own business. I was dreaming about being in the wellness space, and I feared that that would never happen for me. And yet today, in 2025, I am standing exactly where I wanted to be. Holy Moly.

I Was Doing All The Things, And The Results Didn’t Match the Effort

Ten years ago, I poured my heart and soul into starting a business as a spiritual fitness instructor, teaching BUTI yoga classes —a combination of yoga, HIIT, and dance. I loved it.

I rented space in one of the dance studios in Midtown, New York, and I was carefully curating this beautiful experience. I had these red lights that represented the Root Chakra, and I developed new playlists for every single class, which took a lot of time to do. I wanted to create a space for women to come in where they could be themselves and be at peace with their bodies, truly appreciating what was beautiful about them.I wanted my classes to be a place where they could resource themselves.

I would practice for hours. I was trying to develop myself, my strength, and my stamina. Since I had a background in marketing, I was emailing my email list. I was constantly posting on social media. I had professional photos taken. I was listing my class on ClassPass. I was doing everything I could to grow this business, and I was eager for it to flourish.

But the truth is that sometimes the results weren't so great. I would pay for studio time, and sometimes only one person would show up to class, which wasn't even enough to cover the studio's cost. I was actually losing money sometimes, where I would have to offer someone a private session, and I would just be professional and move through it with them, giving them everything I could within that private class.

And then there were other times when I had anywhere from 12 to 15 people, and maybe even 20 on a good day, but it was never really consistent. I felt so defeated, and I thought, 'There's no way I can make this a sustainable business. It's not a sustainable occupation if it's not consistent.

And then, on top of that, I was putting in so much effort into practicing and perfecting these moves, trying to curate the ideal body. I thought if I just had six-pack abs, if I just were super lean, then people would see my results and want to come to class. Still, I was starting to encounter a lot of back issues. I have scoliosis, and I was overworking my body. I remember teaching class once, and my back just went out on me.

And it was so painful. Luckily, there was someone else in the class who had also been certified in BUTI Yoga, and she was able to take over. I realized I was overdoing it, and I realized that this wasn't a sustainable business for me, after all.

When Letting Go Felt Like Giving Up

And so it was around this time, on July 4, 2015, that I had this realization that this wasn't going to work out. I was so disappointed that I was lying in my fiancé's bed all weekend, and I was crying. Because if you've been in this place, if you know what it's like to put your heart into something and see that it's not working out, know that things aren't coming together for a multitude of reasons. And that's hard. It's really hard.

And you know, whether that is your own business, or you're trying to find your romantic partner, whatever it is, you might know what it's like to put all that effort into something and find yourself just feeling this deep rock bottom disappointment.

The Intention That Changed Everything

And on this particular weekend, I had done a lot of journaling, just trying to move through these emotions, and I was sitting in all of this self-reflection. And so, when I wrote this journal entry, I said, “So, it's Sunday now, and I feel good. I feel rested. I feel ready to let go, ready to put down my head and get back to work tomorrow. But what I am clear on is the following:”

I want to build a wellness business that allows me to teach in exotic places.
Knowing this, I need to build a practice that is exclusive to me.
I've toyed with the idea of creating pop-up wellness experiences for hotels.

And oh man, when I read this little portion, this intention, this morning, it hit me so hard, because I got to look at this wound. I got to look at this moment of doubt. I got to look at this time that felt like such a big failure from the place of my future self, who is now living out this desire, who is a Resident Healer for the Four Seasons in New York Downtown, who has been traveling to different locations to do pop up experiences, who is in a couple of weeks, going to Sedona for a press trip and to the Lodge at Woodloch for a weekend pop-up.

And I do have an exclusive practice. I'm not teaching somebody else's philosophy. This is a method that is all mine. It feels like a tiny miracle to be really honest with you.

What I Needed to Hear Back Then

And what I needed to hear back then, and what I want you to hear now, is this: detours are not the end. What feels like a failure is not the end for you. Sometimes these moments when things don't work out are just redirections for what's meant to be our highest good.

And I know that this might be you, a high achiever, who is craving depth and spiritual fulfillment in your career. And we can get caught in the pain of the doubt of the disappointment, because we're so used to things working out for us. We're so accustomed to putting in the effort and seeing the results.

So, when things don't work out as quickly or in the way we had imagined, we get stuck in creating a lot of stories. We get stuck in grieving these endings, grieving what didn't work out, not realizing that this moment may just be the opening to a new chapter.

Life Is a Labyrinth

This moment, which feels like a complete knockdown, is an opportunity to step into something better, because success isn't just about grit. It's about honoring your intuition. Sometimes that demands that we let go of the how. To let go of what it's supposed to look like.

I don't know exactly how I'll get there, but I'll keep moving. I'm not going to give up. This means that this wasn't the way. It's like a labyrinth, and you've been going down a path for a long time, and it feels like you're going to get somewhere, and then you hit the dead end, and you're like, oh shit, I gotta go back. I gotta go back to square one. So you go back.

And now there's a new path within the labyrinth that you're gonna move down. And we're not quite sure we're gonna get there this time, right? And we feel a little bit more defeated. But what if this is the path that leads you to where you need to go, to the desire?

So, if you start to think of your life in this way, as a labyrinth, you might realize that you've turned down the wrong path. We might have to back up, take a step back, recalibrate, and go in a different direction. And that doesn't mean this just once or twice. This could happen multiple times. The point is we don't give up. We hold on to the intention, but not the how, not the it needs to be this way.

What It Really Takes to Step Into the Life You’re Meant For

Okay, so I want you to release what has been draining you, and to hold fiercely, and I mean fiercely, to your vision, even when the details seem impossible.

And here's something I want you to know. Here's the biggest secret in all of this: unlike someone else's success story, where it looks so seamless and effortless, as if they did one thing and got to where they wanted to be. This transition for me didn't happen overnight.

It demanded letting go of how. It demanded that I undergo another transformation with my own health. It demanded that I confront my anxiety and stress. It demanded intense inner work, mindset shifts, hypnosis, one-on-one coaching, shutting down limiting beliefs, and rewiring old stories. It required a great deal of inner work.

You've been feeling stuck, depleted, and on the verge of giving up on what you desire. I want you to know that, what if this moment, right now, isn't your breakdown. This doesn't mean you have to settle. This means that you're being redirected towards your breakthrough.

Your Future Self is Waiting

And this is why I am opening the waitlist for High-Frequency Success. It's a 12-week intensive VIP coaching program. I want you to know you can move beyond the disappointment, beyond the doubt, beyond the things not working out. I want you to move through the quantum leap with me. My goal is to take you through what took me five years and shrink that down for you.

We take a deep dive into your Human Design, so that you can bring your unique gifts and shadows to light, making different choices and seeing the patterns that need to be broken. Then we conduct 12 one-on-one sessions, including coaching and deep subconscious reprogramming, so that you can finally dissolve self-sabotage, old stories, and limiting beliefs. This allows us to upgrade your self-concept, who you know yourself to be, and what is possible for you.

I also give you “Coach in Your Pocket” so you can message me on Voxer or WhatsApp Monday through Friday, so that you are never alone in those messy make it or break it moments or when it's time to celebrate because you had a breakthrough in the way that you think, or you had a breakthrough in your progress, It can be celebrated with this enthusiasm that it needs to be celebrated with.

This is a strategy; it is a mindset's energetic upgrades, and a process so that your outer results start to match the power of your inner vision.

This is the program for. Ambitious, spiritually curious women (yes and men) that are ready to move from burnout and over-efforting everything to clarity, abundance and stepping into your High-Frequency Success, because I want you to be able to have this experience of 10 years from now, and likely sooner, of opening a journal entry or reading an email from yourself and finding that you are now living the life you once dreamed about.

Don’t Let the Struggle Convince You To Settle

So don't let today's struggle convince you to settle. Don't give up before the Universe/ God can deliver what you're meant for, because you are a divine creation. Do not forget that.

I want you to remember this. Your dreams are not random. They're a preview of what's possible when you refuse to give up.

I look forward to holding space for you as you step into your breakthrough. I'll leave the link below for you to join the waitlist and schedule a free consultation with me to discuss what this could look like for you.

And until next time, remember that when you journey within, you can go beyond you.

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By the way, I’d love it if you could share this article with someone who needs to hear it. XO - Nicole

Thanks for reading Ready To Be Seen — a space for voice, visibility, and energetics.

I’m Nicole Hernandez — Clinical Hypnotist, Success Coach, and creator of the High-Frequency Success™ method. I work with quietly ambitious creatives who are done rehearsing their brilliance in the shadows and ready to step into resonance, presence, and real visibility.